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You & Your People
(Friendships, Identity & Finding Yourself Again) You and Your People is where we talk about the relationships that shape midlife and beyond. Friendships that change (or fade), the people you’re closer to than ever, and the ones you’re quietly outgrowing. It’s for navigating the social side of your 40s and 50s with a bit more honesty and a lot less guilt, from making new friends and handling awkward shifts to setting boundaries, sharing the mental load, and protecting your energy. Expect practical, real-life ideas you can actually use, plus gentle 'reset' routines that help you show up as yourself, with the people who matter most.
Not sure where to start?
Read these three first
Three honest reads about friendships changing, saying no, and putting yourself back on the list.
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Making Friends in Your 40s Is Harder Than Anyone Admits
Making friends in your forties is harder than anyone admits — and entirely doable.
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When a Friendship Quietly Fades Away
When a friendship quietly fades, and what to do with the grief of it.
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Tiny Boundaries for Overwhelmed Women in Their 40s and 50s
Small boundaries you can actually hold, starting this week.
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How to Say No Nicely and Still Have a Lovely Christmas
Navigating Family Expectations With Grace Christmas can bring a whole heap of family expectations, can’t it? It feels like there’s this unspoken rulebook about how holidays should be, and often, we’re expected to play a certain part. For us midlife women, this can feel particularly heavy. We’ve spent years perhaps playing the role of the […]
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“My friendship group has changed shape”
You're not the only one. Start with the fading friendships post.
“I say yes to everything”
Tiny boundaries, and how to say no nicely without the guilt hangover.
“Where did I go?”
Identity in midlife, and tiny ways to put yourself back on the list.